It’s human nature to be judgmental. We’ve all judged
people at some point in time or another. Some of us are amazing at snappy
judgments and assessing things the way we perceive them to be and not what
really is. In my earlier years, I, too, have judged unfairly despite being taught
never to judge a book by its cover. But as I’ve grown older, I find myself so
engulfed in my own world that I have no time for judgment of others, only an
understanding of self and what lies behind the mirror. Sometimes books might
have a fascinating cover but when we begin to read the book we realize that the
cover was far better than the story itself. Sometimes books have a shabby cover
but the story is so entrancing that we cannot put the book down. I stopped
judging people. I learned to see past the book cover. Understanding that
everyone has a story, get to know them better, listen to their story, or
realize it has no affect on your life so just let them live.
People don’t hear what I’m not saying. There’s a
reason I do the things I do, there’s a reason I am who I am. But I don’t have
to share the fine details of my life story or explain myself to anyone. I don’t
carry judgment about myself so it doesn’t even bother me. Don’t let people make
you feel bad or guilty for living your life. It’s YOUR life. Everyone has been
victim to unfair judgments. Most often, the people judging don’t really know
you, they don’t know what you’re about. Situations have made me change, I’ve become
wiser and stronger but the core of me is still the same. I have been judged by
people who knew nothing about me, but in their heads they knew exactly what I
was. What they based their judgments on is simply what they perceived from the
basis of their own world. However, it made me realize that sometimes people
will just see what they want to see and not what really is. They’ll believe
exactly what they want to believe while they reside in their pseudo worlds.
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would
judge you? Follow your own unique path. Every day is a chance to change your
life. Work on you. Work on making life all that you want it to be. Work hard for what you believe, and keep your dreams big and
your worries small. You never need to carry more than you can hold, just
take it one day at a time. And while you’re out there making decisions
instead of excuses, learning new things, and getting closer and closer to your
goals, know that there are others out there who admire your efforts and are
striving for greatness too. When you focus on yourself, there is not time or
place for the judgment of others.
People don’t know your story, and you don’t know
theirs. Rise above a life full of judgment, live your life and allow others to
live theirs. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion even if it’s wrong. We
have a prerogative to just ignore their thoughts especially when we know the
truth. It doesn’t matter what the story is, it isn’t up to us to pass judgment
on anyone. Every person you meet has something special to give you, if you are
open to receiving it. Each
encounter offers you the gift of greater self-awareness by illustrating what
you do and don’t accept about yourself. An honest look will show you that the
reactions you have to others give you more information about yourself than
about them. You can never know for sure
what motivates other people. But you can learn what you are accepting or
judging in yourself. When you use your judgment of others as a mirror to
show you the workings of your own mind, every person’s reflection can become a
valuable gift.
Everything you need to break unhealthy cycles is
within you.
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