Sunday, June 14, 2015

Reflections of a Mirror

It’s human nature to be judgmental. We’ve all judged people at some point in time or another. Some of us are amazing at snappy judgments and assessing things the way we perceive them to be and not what really is. In my earlier years, I, too, have judged unfairly despite being taught never to judge a book by its cover. But as I’ve grown older, I find myself so engulfed in my own world that I have no time for judgment of others, only an understanding of self and what lies behind the mirror. Sometimes books might have a fascinating cover but when we begin to read the book we realize that the cover was far better than the story itself. Sometimes books have a shabby cover but the story is so entrancing that we cannot put the book down. I stopped judging people. I learned to see past the book cover. Understanding that everyone has a story, get to know them better, listen to their story, or realize it has no affect on your life so just let them live. 

People don’t hear what I’m not saying. There’s a reason I do the things I do, there’s a reason I am who I am. But I don’t have to share the fine details of my life story or explain myself to anyone. I don’t carry judgment about myself so it doesn’t even bother me. Don’t let people make you feel bad or guilty for living your life. It’s YOUR life. Everyone has been victim to unfair judgments. Most often, the people judging don’t really know you, they don’t know what you’re about. Situations have made me change, I’ve become wiser and stronger but the core of me is still the same. I have been judged by people who knew nothing about me, but in their heads they knew exactly what I was. What they based their judgments on is simply what they perceived from the basis of their own world. However, it made me realize that sometimes people will just see what they want to see and not what really is. They’ll believe exactly what they want to believe while they reside in their pseudo worlds.

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? Follow your own unique path. Every day is a chance to change your life. Work on you. Work on making life all that you want it to be. Work hard for what you believe, and keep your dreams big and your worries small. You never need to carry more than you can hold, just take it one day at a time. And while you’re out there making decisions instead of excuses, learning new things, and getting closer and closer to your goals, know that there are others out there who admire your efforts and are striving for greatness too. When you focus on yourself, there is not time or place for the judgment of others.

People don’t know your story, and you don’t know theirs. Rise above a life full of judgment, live your life and allow others to live theirs. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion even if it’s wrong. We have a prerogative to just ignore their thoughts especially when we know the truth. It doesn’t matter what the story is, it isn’t up to us to pass judgment on anyone. Every person you meet has something special to give you, if you are open to receiving it. Each encounter offers you the gift of greater self-awareness by illustrating what you do and don’t accept about yourself. An honest look will show you that the reactions you have to others give you more information about yourself than about them. You can never know for sure what motivates other people. But you can learn what you are accepting or judging in yourself. When you use your judgment of others as a mirror to show you the workings of your own mind, every person’s reflection can become a valuable gift.

Everything you need to break unhealthy cycles is within you.


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